By Tiahna Skye, Founder of Expansions Coaching
There is a tension between that which calls us forward and that which holds us back. It is not always easy to know which voice to heed. Do I really need more preparation? Is it time to just jump in and go for it? What if I fail? What if I don’t? What about this and what about that? Sometimes we just have to get in the river and see where it takes us. I am a firm believer that we can learn more from putting ourselves into play than we can from sitting on the sidelines.
As a coach, one of my favorite questions is, “If you were guaranteed success, what dream would you pursue?” I like the question because it cuts straight through our fears and doubts, and reminds us of the dreams that are dear to our hearts. That is where our purpose lives. That is where our soul’s calling can most clearly be heard and seen. What is calling to you?
There is a magic that happens when we give ourselves fully to our true purpose. It is the difference between living in black and white, or living in technicolor. When we align ourselves with our values and purpose, life becomes brighter, and excitement and joy bubble up easily. We feel fulfilled and life has meaning. Committing to our purpose certainly doesn’t mean it won’t be challenging, frustrating, or scary – this is real life we are talking about – but a sense of purpose makes it easier to bear those burdens. A clear sense
of purpose also heightens our awareness and shines a light on possibilities – get in the river and see where the currents carry you.
How will you do it? Are you someone who likes to just jump in, or do you prefer stepping in slowly, letting your body adjust to the new environment? Do you rip the band-aid off, or pull it a little at a time? There is no right or wrong. Know yourself, know what works for you, and take the next step -whether it is scheduling a swimming lesson, strapping on a life jacket, or jumping right in.
I like answers. I like to have maps that show me how to get where I am going. I prefer knowing what comes next, and next after that… and next after that. It is often said, “The map is not the territory.” The truth is, even with the most well thought out plans, we never really know where we are going to end up. Life is full of surprises, and unexpected twists and turns. Preparation and planning can give us the courage to move forward, but can also at times become the excuse which holds us back. Gather what supplies you can and take the leap. Bring a life jacket if it gives you the courage to step in to the river, but don’t wait until you have the yacht and the crew before you begin. Put your plans into action or they will only ever be plans.
It takes courage to say yes to your heart’s calling and step into the unknown. It is a risk, but the greater risk is to play it safe and never know what might have been.
“You do not need to know precisely what is happening, or exactly where it is all going. What you need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment, and to embrace them with courage, faith and hope.” ― Thomas Merton
So whatever your calling, your impulse, your inspiration – get in the river and see where it takes you. If you don’t like where you are, just keep going.